Some of my thoughts

I know I bring alot to the table (not all good but mostly), but I'm not naive enough to believe that I can't be cheated on.

Sometimes cheating is unintentioned, sometimes revenge, often stupidity. I've been cheated on. I've been made a fool of big time and I've allowed myself to be made stupid. All part of my life experiences and I laugh at most of them now.

On the flip side: I've been made offers which I found far more amusing than inviting. I've been trapped and jumped. I've fought ppl off who thought I was playing hard to get. Those offers never came at times of real stress in my relationship so any serious consideration was beyond the fact. I've found myself developing crushes on good friends after sharing some serious experiences that normally draw ppl closer, but never acted on any of those feelings. I've entertained the thoughts in a 'What If' manner. Most of the times using situations/scenarios that couldn't possibly happen which allowed me to indulge without jeapordising friendships or relationships (dats right, JayZ gonna drop her off while dey honeymoonin and pick her up in the evening).

I'm a big passive flirt. Active flirting to get freeness (usually food). But most of the time allowing women to flirt with me, not turning them down nor indicating that they don't stand a chance. Perhaps that's one of the reasons I have been locked in and jumped. I have lots of female friends and some persons have been uncomfortable with that because they figured I must be sleeping with some of them at least.

I used to go to exotic clubs so often that the bouncer'd let me in free during the week. I made friends with some of the women. Talked to them about their hopes and dreams, found out why they got in the business and saw a new one start and followed her career for a few years. Why? Because .... I simply felt like. All of this occurred in and out of relationships. I never made a big deal about it and so a big deal wasn't made of it. It was expected that the guys would go to the clubs on occassion so I wasn't questioned about that. I may not have volunteered that I was going by myself otherwise.

I don't correct rumours about me. And some really deliscious ones have passed around. I've received Kudoes and Curses due to stories. I accepted all in stride.

I'm not very fussy (as you can tell with how I'm managing the ribbing I get about the Hylton thing). I don't get jealous very easily. I believe that if you are gonna go then there was nothing I could have done to make you stay. If you weren't happy and couldn't speak to me about it then it probably is better for you to go. I also let go easier without much of a fight. I grieve inwardly. If anyone saw 'Remains of the Day' with Sir Anthony Hopkins that is a similar character to me.

When you put those things together I could drive someone to cheat if they are not very secure in themselves.

I'm happy to read so many comments suggesting that I have good friends who would not cheat on their significant others. I've studied psychology and I'm a student of life and so I am jaded. I don't think they have ever been put to the test and I hope that they never have to be.

Physically cheating is understood. But some have made the comment that having feelings for a 2nd party outside of the union is not cheating. If so then you have no problem telling your g/f or b/f that right now you are in love with two ppl. They'll probably want to know how come you managed to spend so much time with the person or thinking about the person such that you fell in love and didn't see the warning signs?

Sitting in ppl lap is fairly innocuous unless its compromising.